aita for uninviting my stepdad

Did they pay for the tyres? I yelled that all 4 of them are uninvited to my wedding. He's been through enough hazing and taken it in stride for YOUR sake. Live your life, be Happy, graduate, write on reddit, do whathever you want with YOUR Life. Youre asking the wrong question. They are BULLIES, OP. For some reason the other guys never prank me. Seriously, these arent pranks. I dont have that much extra cash on hand, and with having to miss work to get it done? This was DANGEROUS. My asthma is not that severe but Ive been there I really needed the inhaler. Never invite them back. Threatened much because hes more intellectual than physical? and harmful. OP better step up her game. OP needs to drop the family or drop the fiancee, because you can't have a healthy loving relationship with someone while being complicit in them being abused. Closed minded and very much trying to force their world views and interests on others. Stealing someone's effing inhaler out in the wilderness is trying to kill that person. Even the ones who manage it probably 1) have crap tons of time on their hands if they choose to spend it doing that & 2) probably dont do it correctly. When I was 14 my parents got divorced. And I dont think he ever would have earned their respect - they were just entertaining themselves at his expense. I understand this is the environment you grew up in, and might not know better, but hopefully these comments help with that. Just a rug sweeper cause family.. That's only if they were "man enough" to tell her the truth. I would stick to not inviting them. Back your fiance and be in his corner. Dont let any of those family members ruin an extremely special day between you and Tim. A semester later and he said I had to pay for the full amount because I wasn't getting straight A's, which was true because I was exhausted. Slashing tires? Wtf ! All the best to you both with your marriage! this is wildly inappropriate at best, and really not funny. He shouldn't have to be subjected to them for the rest of his life. My brother freaked out saying it was a prank and they were going to give it back, Dad said they'll apologize if I insist but Tim will have lost the little respect they'd gained for him and in their eyes will always be "the soft college kid" who's not up for the challenge. anything that involves irreparable destruction of property cannot be called a prank. I'd be calling the cops. I would presume that they had a similar experience with him.". NTA. NTA but considering the shit theyve put him through even before the inhaler prank, Im surprised it took you this long to put your foot down. It's reasonable to protect your chosen family. NTA. This! This needs to be your hill to die on before your fiance really actually dies. Theyre both so young. thank you for ur reply! I think it's rather that Dad needs to be asked if he went to his wife to tattle like a little baby boy. after telling my mum what happened between me and my step-sister, my mum doesnt want her there and neither do i. neither does my step-dad, either. Right?! if someone going to collage is all they need to get set off on this super insercure episode those are people i would not want to be around. As you say, she's 16 and knows what she's doing. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Even if it did though, so what? Really. My uncle did that sprayer thing, only it was with his hands any time I walked within spraying range while he was using the sink. OP, it sounds like the men in your family are jerks and hoping your future husband wont disrupt their dysfunction. NTA you protect your husband. Fast forward to my graduation. NTA, your family is terrible. They specifically use the fact he went college as a way to look down on him, and most people who do that are the same ones who think colleges are brainwashing places that take in nice, innocent, religious, straight conservative teenagers that perfectly mimic thier parent's views and opinions, all to brainwash them into being gay atheist liberals who might even have black or gay friends or worse, gasp even transgender friends. This is toxic masculinity and for what exactly? Right. They've done that to you too. Yes. And you let it happen for way too long. Theyre not used to anyone standing up to them. Support your fianc and ditch your shitty family. If not, then OP is out of family members that shouldn't be near them anyways. I'm fighting them all. I'm sorry for what you and your fiance are going through OP. It absolutely doesn't ruin any joke I've ever come across to use a /s. (ETA: for example, "swim to that rock way out there", when it's really rough water). OP is young and probably still having to learn to navigate this issue. OP is fucking tim over by the numbers by waffling. This is absolutely mind-boggling to me, considering everything. Vandalism of property. This is abuse. I feel like the AH because I overreacted and probably couldve compromised for a day. Those are the only answers any concerned parties need to know. Pranks with medical conditions are never funny. I'm sorry but the men in your family have a very toxic view of masculinity. I hope not. Go slash their tires and egg their cars. But they were also educated, kind, accepting, loyal. I feel good because after years I have finally set a boundary for myself but I also feel sad because I always imagined my dad being there on my special day. I actually gasped when I read that. They've shown they aren't capable, loving, supportive people. They're children masquerading as adults. Glad you're moving on. It's only tattling if Tim does it. I was pinching pennies for a good chunk of that trip. Those really are best left behind. Medical paternalism sucks. Keep a lifeline out for your siblings, if they ever choose to break free of his gravity, but harbor no regrets for those family members who keeps themselves in his orbit. These are all bullies who've been allowed to reign free. You should have charged them for that and shutting this shit before the incident. Untreated asthma attacks have long lasting consequences (I have asthma and can attest). I feel like it is finally time to cut my dad off but idk AITA? Honestly, Tim must really love and value your relationship to put up with all that. Exactly! I'd contact the cops. Your whole family including your mom sound like awful human beings. NTA - no matter what kind of person you are, no one should ever belittle you to "test" how you are. Hiding his medication as a prank is the lowest of the low. THIS! NTA, you should elope and go NC with this family of bullies. And if I were you, I'd take a real close look at the abuse they've subjected you to. Time to cut those toxic people out of your lives. Yea those are pranks. They might show up anyway and cause an embarrassing scene for "pranks" and revenge. This is 200% bullying bordering on harrassment and they need to be punished accordingly. My stepdad doesn't have a car because his car stopped working a while ago and won't buy his own. . Tires are expensive to replace, and not everyone gets lucky finding good replacements secondhand. Arent we trying to advocate for mens mental health? If I was Tim I'd never see them again, and while I wouldn't or couldn't stop you from being in contact with them, I couldn't understand why you would want to. Like a mechanic, finds whats wrong then fixes. OP, better keep that shiny new spine and stop accepting this toxic masculinity. These men are absolute Neanderthals! True. He sounds like an absolute caveman needing to prove physical prowess to compensate for knowing your partner is clearly intellectually superior. Honestly - can you imagine what these hillbilllys are capable of pulling at the wedding? i suppose it could be possible, but she wanted to go with me up until she got better seats. Your family has driven the wedge, not Tim. Remember OP grew up with this behavior. I think the inhaler thing was just the last straw. I know you were brought up to believe this is normal, but it's not. He was constantly belittling my efforts, my masculinity, my profession, and my art. Lots of things can go wrong and they have no idea how big it can be until it hits them on the head. This type of ban/suspension is issued by the Reddit site-wide admins. Pranks dont have the potential to cost people their lives. Id take this opportunity to get them out of your life permanently. A friend of mine DIED from an asthma attack!!! If not, they really should be smarter than that. ESH. If they are going to test your bf like that what kind of tortures do they have in store for future kids. I still don't always know for sure with some stuff, because I've come across too many crazies who really do believe things like allergies/asthma/mental disorders/autism/invisible disabilities are all fake or "excuses". Im surprised Timmy stuck around for as long as he did. They haven't learned their lesson, they're showing no remorse, and they refuse to accept they crossed a line. Tell them you are reporting them to the police for attempted murder and get a restraining order. You know their bullying will only get worse with you standing up for him. If I sat there and let one of my weird relatives bully him, or god forbid, put his life in danger, (say, for example, by hiding an important medical device like an inhaler) hed be fully justified in running for the damn hills. People are saying NTA because the question was about whether or not she was TA for uninviting her family from the wedding and not about how good she is to her fianc. Handed his corpse over to you like sorry, he wasnt man enough to survive? Your wedding day will be one big joke to them. I agree. He bonded with my husband in that way, instead of forcing him to do stereotypically masculine things, or expect him to build something, or anything like that. Would it still be as funny if they were arrested for manslaughter. NTA. They all seem to think you wood be more concerned about what they think of your fianc than what he thinks of them. NTA but you're lucky that your fiance haven't left you yet. They're immature little boys who believe they have to pretend to be tough so they don't get laughed at. That's a girl color! OP How do you not see that these people are psychopaths?! Family or not I'd be pressing charges. I feel bad for her but worse for Timmy. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. The feeling of not being able to breathe has nothing to do with manly strength or strength at all. I'm 33 M and I recently went back to college for a BFA. How exactly is he supposed to fix slashed tires himself other than buying new ones and replacing them. Read this before contacting the mod team. Good on you OP for leaving this toxic FOG and stand your ground. Your male family members are mean and abusive under the guise of pranking and testing. NTA and it sounds like youre not gonna miss much with their absence at your wedding! This is hazing. I advise you to go NC with your family. NTA, if I'm 'Tim ' that prank hiding my inhaler will land op 'dad, brother, cousin and uncle' in jail for attempting murder. Think of your incredible fianc. It was them saying theyd apologize if OP insisted for me. 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