There needs to be time to build trust and an emotional connection before intimacy. This is the silliest thing Ive read in awhile. CULTURE, people mix Islam with their culture, Islam does not teach a man to not communicate with his wife. I cannot help but feel this Hadith always crops up which men love to use but there is no sentiment for men to be considerate. According to my teachers, the first wife does not even have the right to give consent to her husband if he wants to marry another wife as long as he treats her justly. I am leaving with my in-laws n Dy also know ds n my mother-in- law telling he is giving everything u Na y u worrying I have 3 kids 2daughers n 3one is boy 2year old I am very upset in my life.. physically. Here are the hadith that explain this, O youth, who among you who have baah then should he marry (Narrated by al-Bukhari), 9. Where are the ahadith for this? I m growing alone his child( as Ive got pregnant when we broke up) and believe me it hurts more when your child grows without father. Sexual abuse is valid if it is been done by husband. relationship is even more haraam, because it is a transgression against the Impotence is not the same thing as infertility. I will not stand for it! thats the only thing a woman cant take. Try to sort out the small things of your day by yourself, like your husband takes care of the major problems of the day himself, without even letting you know because he doesnt want to bother you. Nura [not her real name] is a 42-year-old Kenyan woman. For men who want to carry out a second marriage, then this is permissible in Islam. I guess this is life and we should always say Alhamdulliah. @mr. handsome there is no such hadith, please show us, man has to take care for his wifes desires but the punishment or his requirement to fulfil are not of the same level. This is the one part of Islam that I will never accept, a man should NEVER be allowed to marry more than once simply because he wants to. When you said you will send him back home A good wife is pressures, a husband sometime forgets what his got. So what ..its his right to do so 2,3 or 4. -_- is what is good, but if he waits until he feels good about it or sees a I knew he loved me and he truly did but he loved to have sex with. I hope that shed some light on the issue for you all. tell him. He did it with a good heart, so keep ur shirts on if it happens to be wat u dnt wanna hear. Now they both can change that according to their mutual consent, but if there is a conflict, it is going to be judged according to the responsibilities divided by Allah(swt). Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to marry more than one wife. be attracted to men, and this inclination sometimes results in haraam Women are more loyal and giving than the person that wrote this article thinks. Btw if Muslim women want they can write a no-2nd marriage clause in their marriage contract during the nikah. [Al-Quran (4:129)]. I think the issue nowadays is women are raised with the idea that men are more perfect than they are, and more like women. I have 5 years old boy child. It is extremely damaging for your children, especially your boys if you have any, they will end up taking up their fathers abusive example if you do not save them from this environment. Polygamy is a politically correct topic, yet it is a fact, it is allowed in Islam, also it is a fact that most women do not like it ( when it comes for the first wife) and it is a fact that a lot of the companions of the prophet did polygymy and most prophets as well, obviously it was a part of the life style back then for most men to have many women and if we look at it in a positive way, we would conclude that its out of the question that it is a noble thing to protect and respect many women and to make them wives rather than to have one wife and go to cheat with prostitutes as it is the case in many western countries nowadays including many catholic countries sadly. Thus, your situation with your husband needs further investigation. Your just Jealous!!! If you cant except that get ready to be disappointed. Being fair in sharing the heart often makes men difficult, especially after did a second marriage. Thanks anyway. But he sends all love messages to his 2 nd wife. Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. arguments arise amongst them, which turn the marital relationship into an However, if the man wants to marry after the second, Islam limits in it. It was unacceptable. Treat her like a servant. I would leave him the second he mentioned it to me. (4) Will give birth to virtuous children. Search it yourself. , Just wanted to add, dont be afraid to compliment him. As it is an obligation for him to do this, then a similar punishment must apply inshaAllah. Or why is polygamy allowed in Islam? After some time, I found out that he took another wife. This is a great article about men and how to keep your husband happy but why is there never any mention of how to keep a woman happy and what a man can do for a woman? Muslim men like this sandwich maker wont understand what we women feel and how hurtful it is, Im a Muslim wife and I am telling you this from my experience , dear Paula save ur soul and leav this man and the ideology which branding women as mere brainless machines. Made us cook only traditional food. SubhanAllah ladies , stop being selfish . I am in 2 minds about the multiple wives issue. Every part of his life was documented. The first wifes consent is not a prerequisite for a man to take another wife. something permissible, so she should not object to it. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". If you do not let your husband have sex with you without a valid reason, then your husband will just have to be patient, while you will be cursed by the angels at the same time. Average life span of females is more than that of males By nature males and females are born in approximately the same ratio. him if it is bad. Establishment of kinship among fellow human beings. I was told by an Asian Muslim woman that we Westerners have a problem with understanding the principle of sharing a husband. I rather not have a car or smartphone from my husband but have his LOYALTY. No sister, theres no proof of any such against the man. And I totally I agree with muslimah. Urgh..How transparent..what a way to twist things to advocate ones own desires.. I have just remarried another wonderful man. I do not understand. No one should be forced to have sex if theyre not up to it. It doesnt mean hes fantasizing about another woman. , Sweet advice, now i just need to find a good husband to tell him such things , Lol I feel you..I cant wait to get married to actually tell my huband these things.. :-D. Just be sure that you find the right person. Extracting your time from office hours and taking her on a long drive would surly affect her too. Indeed and agree with your comment Abu Ubaydah in shaa ALLAH . Answer (1 of 7): if you don't want your husband to marry another woman tell him. No man can do justice with all wifes its impossible thats why that line was put in their therefor it is not allowed but Allah will forgive you if you seek his forgiveness. Excerpted, with slight modifications, form: www.islam-qa.com But communicating your intentions this way is better (in my opinion) than getting jealous over a man thinking of other women because those thoughts do come back to you if you make him aware of potential competition, especially if he feels like your a good woman for him. If In Islam, true dreams are a way for Allah to communicate with human beings, who would otherwise be unable to perceive Him. She cries every time they have intercourse and are intimate. Saying I love you is not enough ;). Allaah says WOW where did you evolve that doctrine -_- I mean that holds true for slaves but for multiple marriages, nowhat if someone has more than average desirewould you rather see him satisfy it via haram means and let him go to hell or to have his company in heaven.plus a second wife can be taken without the permission of the first but it is strongly advised that permission be sought but it is not wajib [unless it was agreed upon at the time of Nikkah] saying so reminds of mullahs in sub continent, Tunis and Turkey [who actually have the nerve of deeming it illegal in its entirety] and a few other sexually liberated yet religiously repressed Muslim countrieswhat is Halal is halalif you dont like that or as you said This is one part of Islam I can never except then please say touba as you are contradicting the Hudood Allah by picking and choosingyou cannot bring jidat [innovation] to the deen nor can you pick and choose what you like or dont like. Not fair! @Mr. 4. Its not just men. i often make excuses not to fulfil his sexual desires just because Im either exhausted working, seeing to the kids and the home or because i just feel thats all Im here for to satisfy him while he has a easy ride. and she should realize that her husbands marrying another woman is I recommend you seek marriage counselling to help find a solution to your problems as this is a complicated matter for which we cant give exact advice. I mean we are woman, best to get over it. If you fear that you can not do justice to an orphan (if you marry her), marry another woman who is lawful for you to marry, (whether) two, three or four . (Verse 4: 3). Get it together men. Salam guys i am in depressed for My husband he is not love me true also come with me just for sex then he leaves me he is the daily routine of his now i am 4 months pragnant of his baby he is not a truly loves me he is just using me every night i am very tierd his behaviour now i just want to leave him but i can not do this because all the problems will facing me and My baby i am just 17 years old and My husband is 31 years old and the time of My marriage life is just 7 months My husband is saying me i want a baby now i am pragnant he dose not care me love me he is only come with me when he wants sex with me otherwise he is dose not guys help me give me a advise how can i handle My husband how can i get a good happy married life what can i dooooo guys.??? these are selfih man, and simple women who dont stand up for themselves. The person I was getting married knew I never wanted to marry him and I dislike him from my heart and I can never love him. Thank u very much jazakallahu khairan. hers will be destroyed at her hands. it is not because during jihad that marriage more than one is permitted in islam . Every word is not only recorded here but also recorded forever for AKHARAT. After all I have been to him. Mashallah very interesting and thoughtful quotes. or another wife. Allah knows best , there is a reason for this , you just need trust Allah . Below here are the following hadith and Quran that shows 17 Islamic rules for second marriage. Women actually look at attractive men too. Ameen. (2) Will face a terrible ordeal, because Eve was the first woman ever to have menses. I agreed with what you said, now a days men can never be like our prophet peace be upon him. 5 Types of Marriage in Islam that Muslims 5 Ways on How to Make Marriage Stronger Can You Remarry Your Ex-Husband In Islam? This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. Ive been married 14 years and stayed firmly by my husbands side despite the fact hes never worked a days hard work to keep a roof over my head or put food on the table. But if she denies him for no valid reason then and only then will it be a sin. There may be polygamy in order to spread Islam. but after that we start arguing on small things.and he tries to hit me many time but I stopped him.recently we fought with each other n he was the one who was at fault as always. You might not like it or want to practice it but thats fine. Serve you to God in the matters of wives, for you take them with the message of Allah and you make their halal cults with the words of Allah. Some points made in this article are good,but that does not justify being sexist!All men think about having another wife? of a martyr. This hadeeth was classed as daeef (weak) by al-Albaani in (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Do keep him informed but only with the most important necessary details. You mean rapeee!??? Very sad to hear this sister. Now that I am on the receiving end, I realized how wrong I was in denying another woman this PRIVILEGE of a husband. The cookies is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Necessary". Does her happiness matter? It should not be a form of abuse. Hindus are more polygamous than Muslims The report of the Committee of The Status of Woman in Islam, published in 1975 mentions on page numbers 66,67 that the percentage of polygamous marriages between the year 1951 -1961 was 5.06 among the Hindus and only 4.31 among the Muslims. In some of the following hadith, it is stated. I will appreciate that. Husbands are supposed to be the head of a family, being head of the family doesnt just mean passing commandments. tj. 3) If she loves U she will have eyes for NO ONE ELSE. I have to stay with my parents. it wasnt until 1 month before we married the he drops the bombshell on me, he tells me, I am married, have been 4 yrs now and I have 2 kids, Mind you we were together for 3. Inspite of her respect,loyalty n etc etc if he will still think about other women in anywayu cant just justify by saying that all men do so or its their nature, Sisters, I take this as an opportunity to dispell some of the misunderstandings of this hadeeth. Hmmm! Allaah has caused men to be attracted to women, and women to who were patient and sought reward even though many of them felt jealous. I am a practicing Muslim by birth. foundation, not on a foundation of pleasing Allaah and His Messenger Wa`alykum As-Salamu Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. Analytical cookies are used to understand how visitors interact with the website. Very good knowledge!! does that mean she would be cursed all night. We married in the Church about a year before our baby was born. InshaAllah Allah will reward you for all your patience and effort. if you find such statements weird or too honest remember that a guy likes to know, with honesty, that he can perform to his very best and make best use of his skills and abilities to the natural requirements of his Quality Controller. has to repent to Allaah. Will Allah still be angry with me if I stop having any feeling for him? A Muslim mans guide is the Prophet peace be upon him. Bukhari and Muslim. This is an old post, I am not sure what is your situation now. The coworker response, he never told you? my response,tell me what?the coworker replies, he has been married for two yrs and has a child. I confronted him and he lied about having a wife and child. As for Muslimah, do always remember Allah knows everything and he is mercy full, so what will you do .. Will you make DUA asking Allah First weeks were reat but now lot of times we argued really bad even fight. on our wedding night my nri husband told me he is in love with another woman; : NRI - ' ' . Kudos to the author. So when your husband buys you a gift, accept it, rejoice over it, thank him profusely, and use it as often as possible. Any true Muslim woman that follows the Quran and not her husbands list of expectations would know how to treat her husband, a stupid list like this is not even necessary. The wife has the free will to either choose to have sex with her husband or not. We have Your side of the story sister. His second wife was always texting me or ringing me to insult me and amenice me. No one deserves to be spoken to like that. According to Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more than one wife. Intention to marry to worship Allah SWT, Marriage should be accompanied by intent. I would suggest acknowledging the layers of your relationship with him and the in-laws to have a better sense of how to orient your discussions. Married more than one For men who want to carry out a second marriage, then this is permissible in Islam. InshaAllah You are also rewarded thrice , once for fulfilling a desire through halal means, twice because although you were not in the mood you still fulfilled your husbands desire and thirdly because you listened to your husband. Bukhari and Muslim Stand up to abuse! Dear Mehwish, But remember what they doing is wrong. Give them a life of good and worth living. i dream of being able to respect my husband but i must admit over the years i feel that respect i had for him is declining Ive stayed loyal despite our circumstances. I hope this didnt hurt someone feelings. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice till as late as 1950, when an Act of the chief Rabbinate of Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife. It really bothers me. Polygamy is a big responsibility. You r married to him and having two children, just try to not as to much attention and care about ur children as long as hes good with you, respects you, caring about family financially then do it for your children,unless untill they are enough grown-up. if a man truly loves his wife he would never think about any other woman and yes like KAY said i would leave my man the second he thinks about marrying another woman, regardless how much i love him. Your words have given me hope and made me realise my husband does love me a great deal and shows it in his own way. other wife well, she will have the reward of al-muhsineen. The Law of Allah(swt) is complete in every aspect. Your email address will not be published. He loses his job and the money gets tight. Dont unsubscribe from my mailing list just yet. married, then how can you be sure that he will not fall in love with someone Get to know the conditions required for it to be healthy and practiced properly. i agree with u kay. Im sorry to say but the person that wrote this article is a complete idiot and appears to be very arrogant. If you respect your husband and his needs ISA he will respect yours. You have the right to your happiness and to be treated with respect. of reaching you or your family or children. But what completely switches us off is when you expect us to be fragrant and beautiful continually, yet make no effort with your appearance yourself. This is the one who is expected to be fair and just, and to fulfil duties and obligations. This answers the question directed to the authoR. Just my observation. Maybe he should bathe regularly, groom himself well, put on clean bed clothes, not treat her with contempt and be a thoughtful sex partner. In this article, I explained that women want to know their husbands love them, and men want to know their wives respect them. Sighhhh. - muslim1 Jan 3, 2013 at 3:47 1 This is an issue faced not just by women but also by men. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. If and only if she did this in the marriage contract, then he is not allowed to do that without her permission. LEARN QURANIC ARABIC AND READ AND UNDERSTAND THE QURAN FOR YOURSELF, DONT RELY ON WHAT OTHER PEOPLE TELL YOU. She is praying istikhaarah about Hiding passwords only mean his hiding worse things But how different the circumstances. decreed jealousy for women and jihad for men, so whoever bears that with Zakkiya http://www.muslimommy.com, What happens if he abuses you physically, insult you and your family every chance he gat, threaten divorce all the time, because of minor issues. All I want to be is a nice husband and never take advantage of my wife in any way. Create an account, If you do not have an account, you can click the button below to create one, Create new account Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Trials will I needed to get out, to work and find a place of our own instead of living off the leftovers of others. (Abu Dawud). Like it or not, some men are polygamous in nature (if not all) and we have to deal with that. We are all human and built that way. (i.e. If anything, she is going to think U cheated or did something wrong if U keep throwing dunua at her, Correct 100%..if the above post is giving u everything with reference and inspite of this you are not accepting it means you are zionistand woman dont make your own rules and laws this world is hell due to yours silly thinkings got it, Subhan Allah..JazakAllah,.. Praise be to Allah. If you man is not sexually satisfied by you and he is out for bread-winning, he may fall into something else, and it may eventually lead to be a greater disaster than Sex without feelings/Not wanting to. Oh well, baby steps. Someone said that the reward for this kind of woman was more than the reward for a mumin leaving for jihad. How about us woman looking at other man at some point in our lifes?.. Why is it always about how men are and how we shld respect them , when they never respect us they take Us women for granted . sex and bearing children are the biggest rights of men in marriage. You truly believe your superior and have more rights? So inshAllaah we just have to be patient with this idea, even if we are a bit jealous. Would you rather he cheat and have haram sex ??? 4) Your wife doesnt want the stupid car, expensive phone, or giant diamon stabbing him in the back by tearing apart his family, so that his home and my husband love me lot of. So, your husband is fully responsible for his emotions upon receiving feedback and correction. All he used to do was he was busy in his own world. And do not think this is going to be easy for the man, so much responsability. If your husband has a busy routine, dont bother him with small quarrels of the day. I love my husband sooooo very much, and he is wonderful! this is bcoz during prophet mohamed tme many men died due to war, so their wife and family should not be helpless or they wont go in wrong way. but why would some one care like a muslim wife cares coa she wants to save her aakhirah.. hey sista. the loves comes from ALLAH. I am a muslim man. Things Ur Muslim Wife May Not Tell U. It is possible that your husband was pressured by his parents to marry. And for most of us, we are doing the best we can. Our teachings go back a very long time, what Allah has given the Prophet (PBUH) to teach us is final, to question it is not right.equality is important, and we are taught that. 6. Having dinner & lunch with your wife together makes her feel more special too. The writer is just being realistic! Everyone is touched by time, but who he is inside is what matters. we can not question ALLAH. I am happy I have a good understanding of Islam that I worship Allah. 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